I have had families ask me how to handle the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy with their children. This is a topic that I hope I will only ever have to discuss ONCE as the devastation and destruction I see around me will hopefully never happen again.
It is important to remember that every person handles trauma differently; children are no exception. Every family has a different story of how Sandy has affected their lives. This natural disaster was shocking and emotionally distressful for both parents and children. You may see certain behaviors occur such as an increase in temper tantrums, bed wetting or talking back. Here are some general suggestions on how to handle “life after Sandy” with your children:
1) Answer questions honestly and age appropriately with your children. Reassure the child that they are safe.
2) DO NOT let your children watch the news! Children’s brains are not equipped to deal with scenes of the destruction over and over again. This will cause anxiety and a sense of hopelessness.
3) Try to get back to a “normal” schedule as soon as possible. This includes eating, playing and sleeping.
4) Relax expectations with your children during “recovery”. Stress may affect their grades, sports accomplishments and behavior for the time being. This is okay.
5) Be a strong role model. It is okay to cry in front of your children but you must also show them that you are able to calm yourself and be strong in their presence. You can even use this opportunity to teach them “calming” techniques: breathing exercises, yoga movements or mindfulness techniques such as how a “half-smile” almost always turns into a real smile and feelings of happiness.
6) Give your children opportunities to express themselves. They can use art (draw pictures, write a song, make cards) to express themselves. They can also talk to you as you listen calmly and lovingly.
7) Hugs, hugs and more hugs! Many children crave increased physical affection from their parents during times of stress. You may even want to plan extra family time with them.
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