Patient Parenting 101

Easy behavior modification techniques to change the way you parent.

Easy Mindfulness Techniques Part 1:

MINDFULNESS.

Our brain is the most complex thing about us.

We each need to take time to learn how to be the captain of this ship.

Week 1: Breathing

“One deep breath can change our world.”
-Oprah (or one of Oprah’s writers).

Regardless of where the sentiment comes from it is a very powerful statement indeed. If we think about our child’s brain development, we see that there is a gap in the education of their overall well- being.

Teaching mindfulness to our children from an early age will give them the tools that they need to develop emotional maturity, understand how their brain and body work and develop a deeply connected sense of self, safety and happiness.

Each week we will focus on one easy technique to teach our children (and perhaps ourselves) to bring our families into a state of mindfulness and wisdom about ourselves.

I have talked about breathing techniques before. I talk about them a lot because they are important, infinitely handy and free! You have to focus to do a deep breathing exercise, this is being mindful. Every person can deep breathe to change the chemistry of their body and brain at any given moment. Even one deep breath taken in a stressful situation has been scientifically proven to lower heart rate and blood pressure.

BUBBLE BLOWING BREATH:

1) Have child breathe in through their nose for 3-4 seconds
2) Release breath through mouth slowly
3) Wait 2 seconds
4) Repeat

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*Practice this technique with your children by actually blowing bubbles with them. The same breath is used, hence the name. You can even tell them to “blow bubbles” as a reminder to use their new breathing technique in a stressful situation.

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Good news about whining!

Whining is a learned behavior. Yes, that IS the good news. It means that whining can be UNLEARNED πŸ™‚

It is difficult to be patient when our children are whining. All children will test out this method and usually when we are on our last nerve. It is our job as parents to teach them a better, more appropriate way. We have all given in to the demands of a whining 3 year old Β when we were tired, overwhelmed or distracted. If we give in our child will stop whining in that moment, but also learn that this technique works as a means to an end. This guarantees your child will continue whining in the future.

Some ways to nip whining in the bud:

1) Do not be a pushover. Every time your child whines and you feel tempted to give in to quiet the chaos, picture your child as a 12, 15 or even 18 year old whining. I guarantee that you will not picture this as a pretty sight and certainly not an age appropriate behavior. It will appear a bit ridiculous and will remind you in the moment to address it rather than letting it go on (“just this one time”).

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2) Teach your child the proper way to use their words. If they are whining because they want to watch a TV show tell them in a calm voice “You can say Mom may I watch TV now? in this voice”. Model the correct voice for them.

3) Once the calm voice technique is taught you can remind them that they are whining by saying

“I am happy to give you an answer as soon as you use your calm voice”.

4) Stay consistent. Possibly the hardest, but definitely the most effective step.

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